In the beginning

 Once upon a time there was a girl named Lisa. She lived in a happy, stable home with 2 parents and 5 younger brothers. It was a simple time, with lots of family time, lots of family vacations, and the typical fighting etc between siblings. Lisa grew up happy, smart, and able to do whatever she put her mind to. She graduated high school as valedictorian, then went to college before meeting her dream man, getting married and beginning a family (her ultimate goal).

Fast forward to age 37. I'm Lisa. I've now been married 16.5 years, mother to 5 children, and that has become my identity. Somewhere along the way I lost myself, and I've gained 140 pounds in the process. I have been diagnosed with and medicated for clinical depression since 2006. Right now, Paul (my husband) and I are constantly at odds. Constantly. I know there's a lot of unintended trauma that has caused all of this. And I need to journal it all out. So this is my place to write it down. Hopefully that will help me release it.

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